The Choices We Make

I read an intriguing Japanese proverb: “The reverse side also has a reverse side.”
It says to me that both sides – both poles of a polarity – must be recognized.
That is one of the most difficult things for the mind to grasp. For example, there is “good” and “bad.” The mind chooses one (almost invariably “good”) and then rejects what it calls “bad.” This creates a perpetual need for “bad” so that it can be “good.” After all, “good” is defined by “bad.”
What a crazy game! When we understand that good and bad are two sides of the same coin, we can relax into whatever is happening, without choosing one over the other. We have both sides, and to exclude one creates the need to keep the separation – and the other side – alive.
Imagine choosing day over night. What a futile life that would be…

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2 thoughts on “The Choices We Make

  1. hello subhan, i really like what you are saying here. i have been truely looking at duality in it’s many forms in the last few years especially…even life and death as a misconception…in the duality of good and bad, if we are good then someone else must be bad in order for us to be good, and we will live that reality daily looking for the bad in others as a comparison…not how i want to live, and yet it is something deep in me that was taught by the church when i was little. i believe in the world now there are many people learning to master this paradyme by releasing our old stories and opening the eyes of our hearts to a new way of being in the world and in relation to others….hope

  2. Thank you, Hope, for your post and for sharing your wonderful insights!

    Because of your response, I continued the thread of polarities in my blog post of November 6th!

    Thanks again!


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