Diversions and distractions seem to be a way of life for most of us, whether it is sex, drugs, rock and roll, movies, the internet, or whatever. We’re all trying to get away from the anxiety, worry, fear and tension that the mind produces on a moment-to-moment level.
So when does it become clear that this process of diversion doesn’t really work? Yes, it gives us moments of forgetting. But, how much of what we DON’T want do we have to get, before we can say, “Enough!” Isn’t it time to recognize that the increasing levels of “entertainment” we are bombarded with are there to camouflage the fact that we are just surviving the few years we have here?
It seems that everyone worries about something.
When I became familiar with the worrying mind, I began asking, “What is the benefit of worrying?” That inquiry led me to some strange answers from a part of the mind that insists on worrying.
It said, “If I don’t worry, I won’t do anything about it.” Or: “Worrying about a loved one shows that I love them.”
Challenging those ideas helped them to crumble, especially in the light of the COST of worrying: anxiety, tension, fear….
It became clear that the cost FAR OUTWEIGHED any perceived benefit! I could certainly get things done WITHOUT worry bullying me to do it. And not worrying enhanced the feeling of love that I have…it didn’t REDUCE it!!
Still, the habit can remain in the mind. So, it is helpful to look at the benefit and cost each time I discover a worrying thought. And slowly, slowly the hold that these thoughts have has diminished. And that makes more room for enjoying life, not suffering through it!
Give it a try!
In my work, I have connected with thousands of people who again and again see how money is given a top priority in their life. And through my own inquiry I have seen how easy it is for this priority to create tension and anxiety in my life.
The mind is always telling me all the important things that money could provide! If only I had more….
I understand that money is part of the game of life. It is one of my best teachers!
So, when the mind starts chewing on money issues, creating worries and fears about it, I often remember this: money cannot buy life…money cannot buy love…money cannot buy gratitude…money cannot buy inner silence…
A simple solution to worrying: Do something physical for ten minutes, then sit for ten minutes and just watch the body sensations, the mind and the feelings.
In other words, take the energy that the mind uses to worry and expend it through the body – dance, run, bicycle, swim, etc.! The sitting will help you reconnect to a deeper space…