How do I maintain compassion and patience with those who don’t have those for me?

A friend asked the question, “how does one maintain compassion and patience with those that are not being compassionate and patient with them?”
Here’s my answer:
As a kid, I developed three strategies to cope with those difficult situations: fight, flight, or freeze. So when I find myself in similar situations now, the knee-jerk reaction is to move into one of those three. The only way I know of getting out of this reaction is through meditation. It gives me the tools of watchfulness and awareness…and the understanding that connecting with myself brings me back to what got triggered inside ME; and eventually to a clearer, more compassionate space – for myself and for the other person. The key here is meditation…

What’s REALLY “Out There?”

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”
Charles R. Swindoll

I keep experiencing that life is so little what is “out there” and so much what is inside the mind! It’s like looking at life through filters, and filters upon filters. And then, every once in a while, the filters fall, and something unexplainable, something beyond words, becomes the real. And what follows is the expansive feeling of gratitude…