STOP the inner Critic from controlling your life!

“I’d like to (fill in what you’d like to do), BUT (fill in the reasons why you don’t do it).
When this is NOT a sham (we really don’t want to do what we say we’d like to do), this sentence structure reveals a split in the mind: The LEFT is the part that wants to do it. The RIGHT has all kinds of logic, “shoulds” and “have tos” on its side to stop the LEFT side.
So what does this produce in us? Sadness? Resignation? A strong feeling of obligation or guilt? Depression? A feeling of hopelessness? And how much of our lives do we LIVE in this place because the right side (the Inner Critic) wins and we feel compelled to do what it says?
THIS is how the Inner Critic operates! This is what keeps us confined, infantile, contracted! There are ways out of this place – ways to effectively deal with and understand this controlling part of the mind.
Join us September 5 – 7 for “Freedom to Be Yourself: Transforming the Inner Critic into Inner Peace!” It is a weekend workshop at the World of Meditation Center in Seattle. For all the details, go to http://bit.ly/1jqB7L6 and STOP the inner Critic from controlling your life! (And save $100 with the amazing early bird offer!)

Look at What We’ve Done to the Days of the Week!!

Have you ever explored the fact that most of us have attached specific FEELINGS to days of the week?! Fridays hold lots of promise. Just a bit of perseverance leads to that marvelous thing called “Friday Night!” which is the entrance to “The Weekend!!!” My kid’s heart still rejoices at the sound of the word “Saturday!!” And strange as it sounds, “Sunday” has a mild depression associated with it! It the end of the weekend, and hints to that hellish word, “Monday…” (Yuck!) (Did you know that there are more heart attacks on Monday than any other day?!!!)
Tuesday and Wednesday sort of melt together as a blur. Thursday has a tinge of Friday associated with it. (“It’s coming…it’s coming! Soon..soon!!!)
Exploring this phenomenon once again shows a) the craziness of the mind; b) the negative feeling I had for school, when I couldn’t WAIT for the weekend; and c) how that pattern continued in my work once I left school.
I’m happy to say that these days, many times I am unaware what day it is! The only thing that reminds me is the schedule I have to do the things I enjoy doing! So, in a way, EVERY day becomes Saturday!
I wish that feeling becomes yours too, as you do what makes your heart sing each and every day of your life!
Love…

Resentment

As a child, I was required to do – and not do – many things.

I was forced or coerced to do things totally outside of my natural energy flow. The list of these required activities is long and significant. (It included the food I ate, my excretion activities, my sleep, my wake up time, my language, my clothes, my appearance, my hygiene – baths, teeth, etc., etc.)

As I grew up, especially in my adolescent years, I began a process of shedding these requirements. Many of them, however proved to be socially functional or deeply ingrained, and they were kept.

Once I became a young adult, I began to discover that my life was “not working.” I found myself experiencing anxiety, worry, fear, pain, disappointment, anger, sadness, helplessness, depression, etc.. I found diversions – some of them that began in my childhood – to move away from these painful experiences. These diversions included food, sports, music, dancing, sex, smoking…and more!

And while I began to inquire and to explore my feelings, and understood many of the causes of my negative experiences, this understanding did not free me from a feeling of negativity.

What I then discovered was that although I had released many of the requirements that had been imposed upon me, I had not released the RESENTMENT that grew with them! Once I understood this, I began to explore the resentment and to find ways – especially cathartic processes like Dynamic Meditation – to release them. (Catharsis is the process of actively releasing strong or repressed emotions.)

These release experiences made it clear to me that cathartic processes and meditations are an essential part of moving through resentment, which is one of the keys to “growing up!”

If your inquiry parallels mine, and you find that resentment is still very strong in you, then why not experiment with catharsis – especially one like Osho’s Dynamic Meditation? Check out the schedule for Dynamic at the World of Meditation – http://worldofmeditation.com/calendar/calmain.html

Love…

Help People Go Where They’re Going!

There was a turning point in my life, both personally and as a counselor, when I understood that healing came from going INTO the issue, into the emotion, rather than moving away from it. Until then, I had attempted to help people move away from depression, away from sadness, away from anger.
The realization was that this just became suppression of what was being moved away from.
Now, the work is to go deeper and deeper into it. And in doing that, it is building up energy to go to its opposite – the place where I had wanted to help the person to get to in the first place!
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The message? Keep learning…keep learning…keep learning…