How is Comparison one of the biggest thieves of joy in life?

A Note on Comparison
One of the biggest thieves of joy in my life is when the mind starts comparing “me” and my actions to what would, could or should have been! It doesn’t seem to matter much WHAT is being compared. The very act of comparison has an inherent anxiety in it. Inquiry tells me that comparison is usually based on two things: the ideal and the real. The ideal is always something to attain, something better. And the real – what is actually happening – is relegated to a lesser status. So, in the comparison, “I” always come up short!

Further inquiry reveals the disturbing nature of this comparison: the “ideal” almost never can be attained! No matter how hard I try to achieve it, it eludes me! And those amazingly rare moments when I DO achieve it, the mind won’t let me hold on to that satisfaction. Instead, it insists I do it again, or do something BETTER!
Now, after many of these inquiries, when I step back and recognize that comparison is happening, usually the comparison just drops out of sight! It’s as if the mind – finding that it has been caught in this game – quietly slips away!
Love…

Resentment

As a child, I was required to do – and not do – many things.

I was forced or coerced to do things totally outside of my natural energy flow. The list of these required activities is long and significant. (It included the food I ate, my excretion activities, my sleep, my wake up time, my language, my clothes, my appearance, my hygiene – baths, teeth, etc., etc.)

As I grew up, especially in my adolescent years, I began a process of shedding these requirements. Many of them, however proved to be socially functional or deeply ingrained, and they were kept.

Once I became a young adult, I began to discover that my life was “not working.” I found myself experiencing anxiety, worry, fear, pain, disappointment, anger, sadness, helplessness, depression, etc.. I found diversions – some of them that began in my childhood – to move away from these painful experiences. These diversions included food, sports, music, dancing, sex, smoking…and more!

And while I began to inquire and to explore my feelings, and understood many of the causes of my negative experiences, this understanding did not free me from a feeling of negativity.

What I then discovered was that although I had released many of the requirements that had been imposed upon me, I had not released the RESENTMENT that grew with them! Once I understood this, I began to explore the resentment and to find ways – especially cathartic processes like Dynamic Meditation – to release them. (Catharsis is the process of actively releasing strong or repressed emotions.)

These release experiences made it clear to me that cathartic processes and meditations are an essential part of moving through resentment, which is one of the keys to “growing up!”

If your inquiry parallels mine, and you find that resentment is still very strong in you, then why not experiment with catharsis – especially one like Osho’s Dynamic Meditation? Check out the schedule for Dynamic at the World of Meditation – http://worldofmeditation.com/calendar/calmain.html

Love…

The Significance of Money

In my work, I have connected with thousands of people who again and again see how money is given a top priority in their life. And through my own inquiry I have seen how easy it is for this priority to create tension and anxiety in my life.
The mind is always telling me all the important things that money could provide! If only I had more….
I understand that money is part of the game of life. It is one of my best teachers!
So, when the mind starts chewing on money issues, creating worries and fears about it, I often remember this: money cannot buy life…money cannot buy love…money cannot buy gratitude…money cannot buy inner silence…