The power of words, #649: “Remember”

The power of words, #649: Remember.
We all know those moments when we remember something we’ve forgotten. For me, it has a little bit of euphoria in it, as a long-lost piece of reality has returned home!
I also know that feeling of remembrance in relation to myself. It can be as if I’ve forgotten a piece of me, and, suddenly, through some form of

Photo: To re-member is to wake up from the dream of separation!

grace, I once again am aware of it. Or, it comes as a feeling of contentment, of being connected in that moment with…everything and everyone!
It is this experience that got me to look at the word “remember” and to find its amazingly significant meaning!
“Re” – again…
“member” – to be a part of the whole.
So, remember is to be part of the whole…again! It is like waking up from the dream of separation.
The bad news is that I always forget…and fall back to sleep.
The good news? Forgetting sets up the return of remembering! And, once again, I connect with that little bit of euphoria.
What an interesting mystical game I am playing!!
I love it when you join me!
Love…

Photo: re-member: to be one with the whole...again!

The power of words, #648: Disillusioned.

The power of words, #648: Disillusioned.
When people tell me they are “DISILLUSIONED, ” I sometimes say, “Great!”
“What?!” they say in disbelief. “Yes, Great!!” I say. “I don’t want you to live in illusions. So it is wonderful to get rid of them!”

It is clear to me that whenever I have an idea of how something is SUPPOSED to happen, I am setting myself up for disappointment. It is as if I am a movie projector, projecting something on the screen of life, oblivious to the presence of the screen and what it is. And if life doesn’t fit my projection – then I become disillusioned!
Great!!
I am constantly reminded by life that all expectations are illusions of one sort or another. They are ideals that the mind creates and then imposes on existence. And, just a little awareness tells me, more often than not, that existence can easily reject these expectations.
The lesson? Whenever I become AWARE that the mind is creating an ideal, an expectation, an illusion, it starts to drop on its own. Then existence shows me WHAT IS. At first, the mind sputters and resists this. That is simply because the mind has NO IDEA how to live without illusions and accept what is behind them. Then, awareness brings me up to reality, with a whole new alive viewpoint!
It’s a knack that is available to everyone! So, go for it!
Love…

On the Subject of “Work/Life Balance”:

I am hearing a lot these days about the need for work/life balance.
People have told me how important they think it is to have sufficient time outside of work with friends and family and recreation.
I realized that this idea of balance is predicated on the four-letter word “work.” And I found that almost nothing in my life was “work!” So I couldn’t begin to fathom what I needed to do to “balance” my life!
It reminded me of James M. Barrie’s quote, “Nothing is really ‘work’ unless you would rather be doing something else”.
That seems to fit me well. When I am counseling, or when I am facilitating a workshop or event or meditation, I never feel like it’s something called “work.” It’s just a vital part of my life that I deeply enjoy.
That isn’t to say that there aren’t times – such as preparation for activities – that the feeling of work sneaks in. I feel resistance to what I am doing, and I can feel irritable with it. Whenever I explore that feeling I am aware of Barrie’s comment, and realize that a part of me doesn’t want to be doing what I’m doing. Experiencing that what I am doing is a vital part of the bigger picture of what I do – that I LOVE! – gives me a hint of understanding. And recognizing that resistance often transforms the moment into one that is more relaxed and even enjoyable!
And yes, I also enjoy being with my family, spending time with friends, cooking good food, watching a baseball or football game, taking walks, and many other activities and things. But I see my life more as a flow of energy that is like a river…sometimes going this way, sometimes going that way; sometimes very active, sometime laid back – but interrelated in a very seamless way.
Maybe another quotes emphasizes the need to redefine this thing we call “work” – or at least to stop doing work we don’t enjoy: “Find something you love to do and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.” Harvey MacKay
That experience is why, when people ask me how to find the work they love, I tell them to find what it is that makes their heart sing, and to build their life around it!
I wish that for you!
Love…

What People Are Saying About Subhan’s Work

Here is what people are saying about the Workshop and Subhan’s work:

“I went into Finding the Work You Love hoping to figure out what job I wanted; what I walked away with was a tool set I can apply to every aspect of my life. I’ve learned to identify previously hidden obstacles that I didn’t even know were holding me back, and I’ve learned strategies that assist me in charting my course around or through these obstacles towards a life that I truly find fulfilling. I remember back when I was debating taking this course, just as you might be now. What if it doesn’t help? What if it’s the same stuff I’ve already been reading about? Couldn’t I be making better use of the time and money this will take? I am so glad that my wife talked me into attending, because it’s one of the best choices I’ve ever made.
You have so little to lose and so much to gain by attending Subhan’s workshop. Do something great for yourself and give it a try!” Branden Bean, Seattle, WA.

 

“How did you get such an awesome job?” I get asked this a lot. I answer, ” I took a course from this great guy Subhan, its called ‘Finding the Work You Love.’ The class was life changing to the extreme awesomeness.” I owned an insurance agency, my darling wife of 30 years died suddenly, my three grown kids were away at school and within the devastation I was trying to figure out what I was supposed to do now, and I knew insurance was not it. I had worked on boats most of my life before jumping into the insurance agency 10 years earlier. Subhan helped me remember my love of working on the water. Now I’m Chief Engineer aboard a luxury adventure yacht in Hawaii and Alaska. I see whales, dolphins, bears, tropical fish, amazing nature and wildlife almost every day, along with getting to know and work with some of our very interesting passengers and crew.  Thank you so much Subhan! Life is good when you don’t listen to the critical mind! Tom Muir, Seattle, WA and the Pacific Ocean!

 

“Attending Subhan Schenker’s workshop ‘Finding the Work You Love’ was one of the best life experiences that I have had to date. I came away from the workshop with a much deeper understanding of just how much I have been my own worst enemy at finding the work that I would truly love and at which I would flourish. Subhan skillfully and lovingly guided the workshop through many innovative and powerful exercises that exposed how the “critical mind” throws up real, and more often than not, imaginary obstacles that sabotage one’s pursuit of personal happiness and fulfilling occupations. Subhan showed with simple, yet very powerful techniques how one can recognize these obstacles for what they truly are and how to circumvent them or eliminate them altogether. The insights gained in this workshop will not only lead to finding the work you love, but to the life you love. Thank you Subhan! I look forward to taking more of your workshops in the future.” Anurag Prapat, Redondo Beach, CA

 

 

“Subhan, I just wanted to thank you for all you taught me in your class, ‘Finding the Work You Love.’ That class and your facilitation of it were profoundly helpful to me in bringing to the light the things that are most meaningful to me. Being in that class finally gave me the forum to explore my desires without any judgment or criticism, without any rules as to what I could and could not do. I was accepted to graduate school and I will be going back to school Sept 2012 to get a masters in psychology and counseling! I am very excited and feel deep confirmation that this is the path I am supposed to be on. So that’s it. I wanted to let you know and extend my thanks and appreciation for what you are doing.” Joy Holt Hilliker, Seattle, WA.

 

 

“Dear Subhan, I’m looking forward to a rewarding 2012 and New Year ahead! I’ve been very blessed as I’ve been recently assigned a new role at work, which I’m super excited about! I’m going to be managing our relationships with Camera Dealers, which is going to allow me to immerse myself in Professional Photography, creative professionals and the arts. Unquestionably, I pursued this new direction and career opportunity as a direct result from the inspiration I drew from you and your class. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to be fearless and remain true to my ultimate passion. I am sincerely happy with this new career path and am grateful every day I go to work.” Rick – Software Industry, Seattle, WA.

 

 

“I just wanted to update you on my journey.  During an exercise in class, somehow it came about that I should get a job or work with the youth organization in which I have volunteered for ten years, one of my ‘passions’.  Well, recently, I was asked to be the Local Committee Chair, which I accepted and will start July 1, 2013.  I have patiently worked through the property sale process, and should be finished with that in the next 90 days.  So, all the things I discovered, or vocalized during class are happening! Just took some patience on my part and the road appeared. Thank you for the class.” Darcy Niedermeyer, Seattle, WA.

 

 

“I had been craving a life change for a while – to quit working for other people and do the things that I enjoy. I had been postponing this because i didn’t feel capable of succeeding, of doing what I love and making a living out of it.  Then one day I met someone who had been in the Finding the Work You Love workshop, and what he told me about it resonated with me! Time and money came together, and in two weeks I flew from Mexico City to a weekend to remember! Not only did it give me great insights into the many possibilities of where my abilities could take me, but I also found a new love for myself!  Subhan and his wife Shanti created a space for us of unconditional love in which it was only natural to feel at home and safe to open up and just be!
Now, I have finally quit my job and I’m on the journey to doing what makes my heart sing!
You must not miss this workshop! Thank you Subhan & Shanti!” Yvette Neelam de la Rosa, Mexico City, Mexico

 

 

“The newest development in my life is that a few months after finishing Subhan’s Finding the Work You Love class, I founded a company called Chima Designs.
The direction and motivation I received in his class was especially important in leading me to make the jump. I thank him for that. Besides that, I still maintain my  job, but I hope to make Chima Designs my one and only. I am sure that others in the class are doing wonderful things.”
Udoka Chima, founder of Chima Designs (chimadesigns.com), Seattle, WA

 

 

“I attended Subhan’s workshop and found it very insightful. Being familiar with Subhan and The World of Meditation, I knew this would not be a run-of-the-mill motivational seminar, which I was not looking for anyway. Subhan and his wife Shanti (who assisted with the workshop) share a lot of personal wisdom, loving care, kindness, and an earnest desire to help people find their true calling. (They have been seekers for several decades, and have also spent several years in India in their spiritual quest.) Subhan has evolved this workshop over several years. He has structured it as a combination of very interesting individual and group exercises. Through these exercises and personal attention in a small group setting, one is gently nudged to probe deeper into their own self to identify their true yearnings. He then follows it up with an exercise to translate ones thoughts and feelings into tangible career or life paths. Two other people from Microsoft had attended this workshop with me. All of us found it to be a very enriching experience, and well worth the time and cost. So, I would recommend this workshop without any hesitation.” Sarabjit Singh, Bellevue, WA.

 

 

“ ‘Finding the Work You Love, Finding the Life you Love’ will change your life for the better. It is that simple. Taking this course has improved my life in so many areas it is impossible to explain in a simple blurb. I have found the work and life I love because of this opportunity. I have tried many different and expensive ways to improve my life, and this course is by far is the most affordable, and effective. Subhan is your guide, and he will equip you with the tools of change. You will be the one to change your life for the better though, and it feels fantastic to have your life in your hands and own the tools to maintain and grow in the work and life you love. Go for it!”  Kelsey Kelly, Seattle, WA

 

 

“Subhan’s work was not just informative, but life affirming and motivating. The processes we practiced really helped me get to a place of clarity and confidence. By the end of the course, I had decided to go back to school, which I had been unclear of for a while. I am also more willing to take some risks and try new things that I hadn’t thought of before in the area of making connections.
I would highly recommend his work for anyone unsure of their choice of work, or what direction they are going in. You will not be disappointed.” Nicole Nicolaisen, Seattle, WA.

 

 

“At Subhan’s workshop I promised to myself and the group to resolve my commitments – my house, my mortgage and my marriage – within a year. It has been just about 11 months so far….So let’s see: I no longer have a house, I no longer have a mortgage and I’m no longer married. All major commitments got resolved! And I learned to, if not like then, at least to appreciate my job – which is a major improvement. So I’d say I’m pretty much done! And ahead of schedule =) Thank you for your continued support!” Andrey S., computer professional, Seattle, WA

 

 

“I thought the workshop was very helpful for all areas of life not just with one’s career. It helps people step outside of their comfort zone to do some self reflecting and identify the real issue that is keeping them from going after their dreams. I have learned to step outside of my fears….” Vonnetta Ewing, recruiting consultant, Washington, D.C.

 

 

“I have gone through an immensely valuable weekend. I have gotten insights that will help me for a lifetime! It is deeper than finding work that I love. I feel like I am truly beginning to understand myself, getting rid of mental blocks I have carried through my life, so I can take a step even if it appears to be risky! I jumped into the workshop and got much more than I expected!” Manoranjan Mishra, Redmond, WA.

 

 

“To anyone hesitating about taking this class: I’ve spent the past couple decades of my life searching for a career that best fits me. I’ve read many career books over the years that did very little to help. As most people know, this is frustrating and being in the wrong career is literally detrimental to your health. After running out of options, I decided on a leap of faith and took the “Finding the Work You Love” class. I accomplished more in one weekend with this class than I did in two decades. The instructor, Subhan, combines career discovering strategies that really work with a life-long multidisciplinary experience that most other instructors or career book writers lack. All of the other participants had similar feelings about the class. People spend their money on many things (many that do little for their REAL benefit), but this is one class that will definitely have its return! I highly recommend to anyone the “Finding the Work You Love” class.” Jeremy K., Seattle, WA

 

 

“My production company had been moderately successful, but was unfulfilling – we were just a gun for hire, moving from job to job. Many friends had recommended Subhan’s Finding the Work You Love, so it seemed like a good place to explore other options. From the very first day, Subhan challenged the fundamental perceptions that I’ve had about work and play. Although it was challenging, Subhan’s experience and compassion provided us all with a safe environment to explore very difficult and personal subjects. Each exercise and discussion provided new ways of focusing on what is really important in both your career and life. By the time we finished, I’d found the solid career direction that I’ve always wanted, and the courage to move my company in that direction.” Erik Holsinger, Media Production, Phoenix, AZ

 

 

I had seen the ad for this class, but I thought “what can this type of class really help or teach me?” After seeing it again though, I decided to take it and see. I didn’t really know what to expect. However, I was pretty certain that I wouldn’t get out of this class with a new job in hands. And although the latter is true, this class opened doors for me, literally, in that I am now starting to explore other possibilities, possibilities I would have never thought about before. But also it opened doors inside of me, doors that lead to places I need to explore more, doors that might lead to new discoveries of myself.  I highly recommend this class to anyone who would like to discover their potential. Subhan is there to help and to give you tools that help you to move a bit out of the known-zone into the adventure zone. You never know what awaits you there.” Andre Durudas, Project Coordinator, Seattle WA

 

 

“Attending Subhan’s “Finding The Work You Love” seminar was one of the milestones by which I mark significant events in my life.  Here’s the deal:  after attending Subhan’s seminar the milestones keep appearing more rapidly and that, for me is as good a description to progressing as any I’ve heard – and I love “progress” whether tangible or intangible!  I’ve been an employee all my life and  with the influence of Subhan’s seminar and the other attendees I gained enough final confidence (or should I say I recognized the confidence that was always there?) to start my own corporation and am loving every minute of my adventure.  If you are working to earn a living – I’ve been there, done that and have every tee shirt!  Often our “work” defines us and if that is so, then let me be defined by what I am doing and how I am now living after the catalyst of Subhan’s seminar!  I’ve offered to pay for my four children to attend!  I am a very, very conservative person and urge you to have an open mind and attend Subhan’s course.”  Ron Hansen, Edmonds, WA

 

 

“Subhan is a breath of Fresh Air to the Teaching Profession ! At once he is caring, understanding …and knowledgeable. Specifically , Subhan conducts a full College Classroom in such a way that students get individual attention and the group gets educated at the same time! My fellow classmates were more supportive of me and the individual progress began to happen before our very eyes! Subhan offers a very creative examination of our lives and our work that really makes for a delightful class on life’s work ! As a former early childhood educator, swim instructor, army medic, and now retired army veteran, I find Subhan to be one of the best teachers and one of the most inspirational people I have ever known in my life!” Mark Jones, Seattle, WA

Today’s word is the “heart.”

Today’s word is the “heart.” And the journey to the heart requires us to go through the barriers that we have put up, most likely to protect it!

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

Now here comes the paradox: in order to journey towards the heart, you need courage…and courage comes from the French word “cuer” which means heart!! To get to the heart, you need the heart?! So, how can that happen?
The clue is found in the fact that in order to have the word courage, you HAVE to have fear. If there is no fear, there can be no courage. The word would be meaningless!
So we can then understand that we have to have situations that we don’t want, that fuel our strong longing to connect with the heart; and fear certainly has the potential to move us, either toward or away from situations. If we go into the fear rather than run away, an amazing thing occurs. The fear begins to guide us towards the heart! Now don’t believe a word I just wrote. A belief is worthless. Rather, experience what happens when you stop fighting with fear, and find what is there for you.
For me, in that amazing moment, the miracle happens: the heart becomes available.And to finish this little vignette on the heart, I would like to share a wonderful German expression that goes like this:
Wirf dein herz voraus und spring hinterher!
Translated, it means “Throw your heart ahead and jump after it!”
Or, in other words, FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!
Love…
Photo: Today's word is the "heart."<br /><br /><br /><br />
And the journey to the heart requires us to go through the barriers that we have put up, most likely to protect it!<br /><br /><br /><br />
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find<br /><br /><br /><br />
all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." Rumi<br /><br /><br /><br />
Now here comes the paradox: in order to journey towards the heart, you need courage...and courage comes from the French word "cuer" which means heart!! To get to the heart, you need the heart?! So, how can that happen?<br /><br /><br /><br />
The clue is found in the fact that in order to have the word courage, you HAVE to have fear. If there is no fear, there can be no courage. The word would be meaningless!<br /><br /><br /><br />
So we can then understand that we have to have situations that we don't want, that fuel our strong longing to connect with the heart; and fear certainly has the potential to move us, either toward or away from situations. If we go into the fear rather than run away, an amazing thing occurs. The fear begins to guide us towards the heart! Now don't believe a word I just wrote. A belief is worthless. Rather, experience what happens when you stop fighting with fear, and find what is there for you.<br /><br /><br /><br />
For me, in that amazing moment, the miracle happens: the heart becomes available.</p><br /><br /><br />
<p>And to finish this little vignette on the heart, I would like to share  a wonderful German expression that goes like this:<br /><br /><br /><br />
Wirf dein herz voraus und spring hinterher!<br /><br /><br /><br />
Translated, it means "Throw your heart ahead and jump after it!"<br /><br /><br /><br />
Or, in other words, FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!<br /><br /><br /><br />
Love...

Being Imposed Upon…and My Reaction!

There is an interesting phenomenon I’d like to explore here with you.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was wanting something from you and you got upset or flustered or felt imposed upon – and things became “serious”? This happened to my wife recently, and we had a good look at it together last night. A friend pointed out that some people don’t get upset or flustered in those situations. They just take it in and respond from a more relaxed place.I see now that I do both. So I became interested in what the difference was.

What I discovered was that if I had an investment in being a certain kind of person, and in saying “no” to the other put that image of me in danger, then I could easily become flustered! My upset would come from having to say or do something that might upset the other person. And then, my image would be tarnished or blown. So, I was upset at the person for putting me in that position!
But when I had no interest in what the other thought of me, I could just go in and experience whether a yes or a no was there. No pressure from within to BE a particular kind of person. Then it was easy to say what I was really feeling.
I can’t MAKE myself be the non-serious one, but over the years, it has gotten easier to stay with myself and do what is right for me, rather than act from wanting the other to see me in a certain light.
So my wife’s experience became a teacher for me to remember to bring awareness into the different ways I react or respond to others’ requests or demands, and to learn from them. It is amazing how many of these lessons are available every day. All I have to do is be open to them.
Love…

You’re Nobody Till Somebody Loves You – Is That True??

I just heard the song “You’re Nobody Till Somebody Loves You.” It’s part of the “boomer” generation, and it gave me a good understanding of why life and relationships are so difficult and full of anxiety!
Through movies, TV and books, I was raised with the belief that the only way I was going to live a meaningful life was to have someone love me, deeply and fully. Without that, I was destined to live an empty, loveless life!! So, hat in hand, I went “out there” to find the girl and friends who would fulfill me.

I know that this extreme thought may look ridiculous to me now, but I also see how it has penetrated my unconscious mind so deeply, that it STILL holds power of me. That is why I am still trying to get people to find me of value. It is obvious that if they don’t, I can still feel sad and hurt.
I now understand that this belief is the roadblock to loving myself and to connecting with my own heart. It keeps me looking outside for a heart to connect to – which can be, by the way, a full-time job with NO PERKS! It also leads me to strategies that shut me down when I don’t get the needed attention from others.What a mess!So, the first step has been to become aware of this belief rolling around inside me, and especially when it surfaces in situations. That moment gives me an opportunity to experience how it functions and affects me. The second is to keep supporting my meditation practice, which allows me to be aware of those moments when it surfaces, and to go inside and connect with an inexpressible joy, silence and stillness that awaits me there. This experience keeps teaching me that going outside simply DOES NOT WORK to fulfill myself. To FILL myself FULL of love can only come from the wellspring of my own heart!!
I am writing this to both remind myself and to share with you the reality that the connection with the heart is real, and the experience of doing that is ecstatic…and that it IS available. This is especially helpful to remember when that experience is farthest from a given moment. Then watching and relaxing into what is, is the first step to reconnection.
Love…

Being at Home

I had a conversation with a friend about the joy of coming home after being away for a period of time. After living a bit rustically, it was nice to come back to my own bed and the familiar surroundings of home.

What struck me about the idea of home was that it was a physical place and that I had to be there to have the feeling of “being at home.” Because I am traveling more these days, I realized that “home” had become more a feeling, an experience, that was inside me, rather than my external trappings. It seems I give myself permission to be more relaxed in my physical home than on the road! So, I have been more attentive to the experience of feeling – and not feeling – at home. And I have observed that the old, hackneyed expression, “home is where the heart is,” is true for me! Whenever the heart is open and is able to connect with others, THAT place truly feels like home.

So, I must be getting out of the way of the heart at my physical home – at least when I first arrive. Just a short while later, that good feeling disappears, as I settle in to what I need to do to get back into my daily life. It comes back only when there is again a connection with the heart.

Knowing this, and knowing the experience of a rich heart connection, I am putting myself in the way of everything I know that supports this connection: meditation, being with friends, cooking delicious meals with them, taking walks in nature, enjoying humor and laughter, touching my beloved, dancing, singing, watching wonderful movies like “Bab Aziz” and “As It Is In Heaven,” and more. It seems that the path to the heart isn’t as blocked or congested these days. There’s a growing understanding that I can bring home with me wherever I go – or stay!
Love…

Growing Up

I just read an article from Gangaji, who has wonderful insights into life. But sometimes I find that her choice of words makes reading them difficult. What she said struck me in my own personal experience; so I sat down and wrote my experience in my own words. Here it is:

For me, growing up means that I am willing to look at the parts of me that I have rejected and have excluded from the IMAGE of who I THINK I am.
Choosing only this image divides me and does not allow me to be whole.
I become a grown-up when I am willing to open all the hidden spaces, include them, and become free of limiting concepts about who I am.
Love…

5 Steps to Freedom From the Inner Critic

5 Steps to Freedom from

the Inner Critic

October 12th – 13th

A two-day workshop at

The World of Meditation Center

3412 NE 115th St., Seattle 98125

   (Fri. night: 7pm – 10pm & Saturday: 9am – 5pm)

 We have an inner critic or judge that is constantly defining what is right or wrong, and judging us from standards that were established by our parents, our religion and our society. The critic is suppressive and inexhaustibly active in the harsh and often negative ways it treats us! Unless we can learn to recognize and understand this part of the mind and learn how to deal with it, we will be unable to find self-acceptance, or to discover the peace and nurturing within us that is our birthright.

This workshop will give you effective tools and experiences in 5 steps, for recognizing, understanding and dealing with the inner critic. Facilitated by Subhan Schenker, C.C., J.D., C.M.F.

Cost: $99. Early bird special $89, if paid by September 21st. To register & for more information, contact:  subhan@findingtheworkyoulove.com; tel.: 206-772-8897; www.worldofmeditation.com